It’s amazing how many relationships come to an early end.  Looking at the numbers you’d think that men and women are actually not made for each-other …  Me and my husband Ronny are together since 1992 and got married in 1996.  Sixteen years of romance and butterflies ?  I’m afraid not, I cannot count the many ups and downs we had.   I’ve lost count of the misunderstandings that exist between us.  I mean, we share so much, we think that we really now each-other and still … to this very day we discover so much things that we didn’t know or understand from one another.  Even to the extend where we wonder if we are actually a good match.  If we know so little about the other one, maybe we should go looking for another, more suitable, partner ?
I guess it would help to know who we are and what we want to accomplish as a man or woman.  I have discovered much about myself since I started working with my coach Karen Cappello.  I know now that my strengths are in nurturing, taking care, loving, teaching and sharing.   At the same time my partner is also discovering who he is as a man … but now our cards are totally different then before and we find ourselves struggling to find the right way to live together.  Never before I have realized that a real man has virtually nothing to do with the softy, romantic, irresponsible, selfish, unfaithful men that are so popular nowadays.   A “genuine” man goes for “long term”, it’s his way of expressing his love for a women.  He loves action and taking calculated risks.  The only real problem is that in our society it is extremely hard to get acknowledged for these capacities.  Especially for those who, like my husband, are very intelligent and sensitive.  Even in the corporate world, charismatic leaders are kept away from the media because they “scare” the consumers …  Public relations are maintained by more neutral and average representatives.  Many potential leaders and responsible men have learned to camouflage their real character and as a result all we get to see are mediocre figures leading our world into chaos.

Turning this phenomenon around is a big challenge.  I have discovered that being myself and respect the other for who he is is not an easy thing to do.
Divorcing would definitely be easier … I could go and find myself one of them softies who would promise me heaven and eternal dedication and would let me down after a couple of weeks… I’ve shed some tears for those kind of guys when I was a young girl !

So no thanks !  I’d rather grid my teeth and keep on searching for a better way to live as whole human beings, respectful and respected for who we are.  And I know that not only we will succeed but also our experience will help others to find more happiness and fulfillment in their relationships !  I know it is possible, after all, I really love him !